Monday, November 19, 2012

A Day in the (Busy) Life

This is an example of a typical monday for me. Mondays are one of my busiest days. Not every day looks like this. I'll do another post of a non-busy day following this.

I'm well aware that most of this is uninteresting. deal with it.

5:45
I woke up to the baby crying and my dad’s radio, but I tried to get that last 15 minutes before my alarm went off.
6:00
Alarm went off. I got up, crawled out of my mosquito net, and first things first, checked if the electricity finally was back. IT’S BACK! HUZZAH! I opened the windows to let the daylight in, and turned on my computer, checking for emails or facebook notifications.
6:23
I quite suddenly felt sick to my stomach and ran to the bathroom for my almost daily diarrhea. As usual, I tried to remember what I had for dinner last night… oh yeah stir fried pork and cauliflower and rice. Hm. Who knows.
6:27
I changed into a white collared dress shirt, and did my hair- without a mirror. I probably looked okay.
6:33
I went downstairs in my pajama pants and my dress shirt. I always wait until the last possible minute to put on my teaching sampot. I took a piece of hard, kinda moldy bread from the fridge. The bread I bought in Phnom Penh last week. I smeared Peanut Butter on a slice of bread, then noticed that I forgot my chocolate syrup on the kitchen table from the previous night’s chocolate milk. So, I poured that on my bread too and ate it. The result was good, although nutella does that job better in my opinion.
6:41
Back upstairs to brush my teeth in the upstairs bathroom.
6:44
I folded the clean laundry I had draped over my desk chair.
6:48
I packed my bag with the textbooks and lesson plans I would need for the day.
6:50
I glanced over at my bible verse for the week: “But now thus says the Lord, he who created you. He who formed you. Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are mine.” Isaiah 43:1. Today I was going to focus on and remember the part that says ‘he formed you,’ so I wrote that in small black letters on my inner wrist.
6:54
I put on that stupid sampot. Todays choice is a dark green sampot with gold and pink detail that goes down to the middle of my calf. Then I went downstairs and pulled my bike out of the “garage” (a small room under the house that holds the bikes, motos, and giant bags of rice.
6:58
I left for school. I joined the line of students riding their bikes to school. I always pass them by though. I don’t know why I’m incapable of riding my bike at a slower pace.
7:05
I arrived at the school directors office, at the very moment the students were lined up respecting the flag by singing the national anthem. I quickly hopped off my bike and pulled off my helmet, and assumed the respectful position of standing tall with my hands at my sides. There is not hand over the heart her in Cambodia. Then after a few quick announcements, students were dismissed to their classrooms.
7:10
I myself head off to class. This morning I started with grade 11, class C, with Mr. Vanny. Vanny came in and began the lesson, with the 12 students who were actually in class. Where was the rest of the class? Well, it was “cold” this morning (hardly) so the students use that as an excuse to be late.
7:18
Another group of 8 students roll into class. There are no consequences for lateness in Cambodia. I spent almost the entire class sitting at the teacher’s desk watching Vanny teach. Vanny is a pretty good teacher, but he is a new co-teacher for me. So far, he has been difficult to work with, in that he wants to do everything himself. I’m having a hard time jumping in. The only thing he lets me do is read the vocabulary words for the students after they are taught so the students can hear my pronunciation. So I do that, and then I sit super bored for the rest of the hour.
8:05
The school secretary rings the bell at the office, signaling a break. I approached a smart student in the class and asked if she had free time to join the Honor Society Mondays and Wednesdays at 4. She said no, she was busy. I said I was sorry to hear that and sat back down. A minute later, she came back to say maybe she could switch her schedule. So I gave her an application. Then I heard “DIANA” and at the door were Chelsea and Linda, two of my students from last year. The called me to come outside. Linda had a letter she wanted me to edit for her. The letter is for my grandma, who recently wrote a letter to Linda because I named Linda after my grandma, in a way. I corrected a few things, and explained the difference between a ticket and a letter.
8:15
The bell rang again, signaling the end of the break. I noticed that suddenly the class was full with more than 40 students. I guess the cold late-comers all finally showed up. Vanny came up to me and asked me to teach alone this hour because he had to fix the electricity at his house. I think I’m SUPPOSED to be upset by this, but I was actually really excited to finally do some teaching in this classroom. So I told him it was not problem. Then I taught the class MY way. It went well. The students were excited to finally have me do more than just sit at the desk. I can tell because they were taking pictures of me with their phones while I was teaching lol.
8:53
The bell rang again for another break in between classes. As I was walking to the office, one of my chorus students from last year called over to me “hello sir!” I called him over to explain to him that he can’t call me sir. He asked me for the 100th time when chorus class would start back up again. I told him after Water Festival, because I’ve just started making plans. I challenged him to come up with a traditional Khmer song we can sing as a group and went on my way. Then, I stopped at the office to say hello to the group of teachers sitting there. My friend Sokha brought up his favorite topic- how much Khmer I know. He told the others about my Khmer skills in rapid Khmer, and then quizzed me on how much I understood. I passed that test. Then he went on to say I could read too! So he wrote some khmer on his hand. I read it wrong. Woops. Failed that test. Then I awkwardly left, and walked over to the library to help the librarian shut things down. I organized some books on the shelves, and then stacked chairs, closed windows, and locked the door.
9:18
The bell rang for the next class to start. This time it’s Grade 8, class A, With Teacher Buntheourn. He is also a new counterpart, but things are going smoother than with Vanny. When he came in, he asked “Do you teach or do I teach?” I repeated the same answer I always give him; “we BOTH teach,” and this time I was determined to show him exactly how this works. The first hour was a success. We each taught a section, and equally shared the teaching time.
9:58
The bell rang for a break. Buntheourn came to me and said “Can I ask you a question? What is wherefore?” I said “wherefore?? Well, this is really old English, and I think it just means the same as where.” Then he pulled out an English textbook, to show me where he saw it. In the book was a reference to Romeo and Juliet, that had the quote “Romeo oh Romeo, wherefore art thou Romeo?” I also taught Buntheourn what art and thou meant. He was excited to finally have this mystery solved. I felt intelligent for a moment. Then I saw a grade 12 student at the classroom door waving me to come out. I went out and she asked me why the library wasn’t open. I told her because it closes at 9 on Mondays. She said she had to return a book that was already a day late. So I grabbed my key and we went to the library to return the book so she wouldn’t have to be another day late. She paid the 100 riel late fee (less than 3 cents), signed the book, and we both went back to class.
10:08
The bell rang to study again. It was another mostly successful period of co-teaching. But, this is when the heat of the day really started to kick in. I sat but the window and used my textbook to fan myself. Halfway through the class, a local farmer started using a tractor to harvest rice right next to our window, distracting our students and also making it harder to hear. I was also distracted by what looked a lot like a scorpion crawling across the wall. But it was at the other end of the room. It could have just been a big cockroach.
10:58
The bell rang for the end of the morning classes. I walked over to my bike at the office, and rode home. On my way home, I saw the nom pow seller hanging out. I picked up the pace so I could come back for some nom pow!
11:07
I arrived home. Right away I started choking on the smoky incense coming from inside the house. Ah, my host mom and dad are still here visiting, and they are sacrificing stuff to their ancestors. I went into my room, tore off my sampot (ah sweet freedom!) and changed into pajama shorts that come down to my knee, and my new gangnam style t-shirt that I bought at the market 2 weeks ago for $2.50. Then I went back to where I saw the dude and bought a nom pow for 25 cents. Nom pow is like a sweet and salty Cambodian dumpling. The outer crust is soft and sweet, and inside is salty eggs and pork and.. I dunno what that other stuff is, but it’s good. I also bought a bag of ice and Sting (Cambodian Code Red Mountain Dew) for another 25 cents, and went home to enjoy my treats. There was an ant floating in my Sting. I sucked it right up through the straw and ate it.
11:17
Horror- my fan won’t turn on in my bedroom. The sweat is just dripping everywhere.
11:21
HUZZAH! I fixed the fan. I sat under it while I messed around on the computer.
11:43
I took my peanut butter and nutella down for lunch. Right away my visiting host mom says “Diana, eat! There’s som law koco. Give that girl some som law!” Then my sister says I don’t know how to eat it because it has prahok, fish cheese. But my mom says nonsense, let her try it. While this argument is happening, I take out the final 4 pieces of hard bread, put the last of my butter on it, and fry them up. Then I spread peanut butter and nutella on them. I take once slice for myself and offer the rest for my family. They loved it. Then I ate some rice and som law koko, which is fish and vegetable soup. Of the fish soups in Cambodia, this one isn’t too bad. I picked out the 2 ants that came with my rice, and enjoyed the rest of it. I ate a whole plate full, and then firmly refused another saying I was full. My mom asked me questions about my older brother coming to visit from America. She invited us to come to her house in Phnom Penh for lunch on the day he comes in. She wants to cook her amazing curry for him. She knows that her curry is my favorite Cambodian food. I tell her I think we can work it out. Then I leave my mom and my sister to their conversation about what else to cook for my brother.
12:22
Ahhhh hammock time. I took the book I’m reading to the hammock in the backyard next to the fish pond. I’m reading a book called Music and Silence by Rose Tremain. It’s not good, don’t read it lol. I was intrigued because I’m a nerd and it’s about a court musician, a lutenist, in Denmark in the 1600s. Now it’s a book that’s not going anywhere and is way too long, and makes me wish I was the kind of person that can quit on a book which I’ve read more than a few pages. But I still loved sitting in the hammock, feeling slight breezes and letting the sweat evaporate off my body.
1:00
I gave up on the book because of the horrible loud noise coming from the front yard. I went around to see what it was. It was like a rice mill on wheels. This giant machine was parked in our front yard. A khmer man with an impressive 6 pack was pouring our rice into the machine, and the machine was separating the edible white rice from the yellow/brown part that covers it. Sorry I can’t give you technical terms. Funny enough, I only know these terms in Khmer. As I was watching, I saw Keke our dog run over to the machine and the bags of new rice, and lift his leg to pee right on our fresh rice. I couldn’t help but laugh. Oh, Cambodia.
1:09
I went up to my room to lesson plan for the rest of my classes today, while listening to Chris Tomlin’s Christmas Album.
1:33
The song Winter Snow came on, which I LOVE and it inspired me. I decided to try to learn to play it. I took out my uke and looked up the chords. Of course, many of the chords were wrong, so I figured out the right chords. The finished product wasn’t very good. The chords are complicated and it sounds much better on a piano.
1:52
I re-packed my bag and changed back into that stupid sampot.
2:00
I left for school again.
2:07
I arrived at my classroom. Grade 11 class D with Mr. Vanny again. I arrived before the bell rang, so I decided to teach my class to greet me with “what’s up” and to respond to the question with “nothing” or “not much.” Then when Vanny arrived I had them ask him “What’s up teacher?” He wasn’t amused. I was.
2:13
The bell finally rang. Vanny started the class by talking about Obama. Obama is in Cambodia right now, participating in the ASEAN conference. He asked the class why they thought Cambodians were more excited about Obama than they were about visiting politicians from other countries. The students thought about it, but didn’t know how to answer. Then Linda said “because he’s handsome.” The class laughed. Vanny asked “how do you know he’s handsome?” She replied, “because he’s from America. He’s probably tall.” Hahaha. After this riveting conversation, we got into the lesson. I finally took charge for the first time and told Vanny to sit down, I want to teach lesson A. It was a start to us working together more, I hope.
2:57
Bell rang for break. I had nowhere to go and nothing to do, so I sat there awkwardly pretending I was reading my notebook and checking my phone, but really I was focusing on trying to position my legs so that they don’t stick together, thus creating even MORE sweat.
3:17
Bell rang to re-start class. Vanny came back and this time started class with a conversation about how the world is going to end next month. He was explaining something about the North and South pole causing it. He asked the class “Which pole is cold? The north or the south?” The students replied “The north pole.” “Right,” he said, and wrote -5 to -20 degrees next to his drawing of the world. I sat there horrified at all the false information happening before my eyes. I couldn’t even correct them to simply say the south pole is NOT hot, not without making my co-teacher severely lose face. Then the students started freaking out that the world is going to end. They asked me if I believe it, and I said no. I then briefly told Vanny about the Mayan calendar. The students begged him to translate what I said. He refused to tell them. Then he told them to open their books and skip over a page to the beginning of the next chapter. He taught just a bit of that new chapter before the bell rang. I asked him privately why he chose to skip so much material. He told me he didn’t think that grammar point (using must and have to) will appear on the semester exam. And my respect for his teaching decreased a bit in that moment. I can’t stand it when teachers teach to the test. So the students will never know must or have to?? But I had no choice but to nod and go with it.
3:47
The bell rang for the end of the day. I got on my bike and rode over to the library.
4:00
Our first Honor Society meeting of the year started, and I was EXCITED! I love this group of students beyond words. 6 students came. We made a new set of club rules, talked about logistics, and made a list of our favorite English-learning activities. Then I pulled out the attendance list from last year and went through it name by name. I found out that these 6 students are the only ones from last years’ class of 22 that can continue studying in Honor Society. Most of the other students are taking a biology class now at the same time. I sunk deep into a deep Peace Corps depression. Over the past 15 months, this group of students have been the ones who have inspired me to keep going. When I wanted to quit and go home, I didn’t because I have this class. I think about each individual student and how sad I am that I can’t work with them anymore. I was already deprived of teaching their public school classes because their public school teachers wouldn’t allow it. Now I don’t even have this. I think of the plans I had, many of them individual to the student. One student I was going to work with all year, and then help her apply for this great scholarship I know of. I’m not taking it personal. I know it’s not because they like biology better. It’s because they (or their parents) are trying to get them to pass the grade 12 exam and become doctors. But I know many of those kids wanted to be tour guides and translators and bank tellers, and other jobs where English is much more important. And honestly, they need this last year with me to get there. But really I’m just depressed because it means I’m not going to work with them and hardly even see them for the rest of my time here. I’ll do my best to recruit new members for the Honor Society, but it’s going to be a very different environment. It won’t really be the top kids in the school anymore.
5:00
I rode my bike home, silent and depressed. Then I looked at the time and realized that I won’t even have time to go running this evening. This half marathon in less than 2 weeks is probably going to kill me.
5:16
Arrived home, took off my sampot and slumped down in my chair.
5:18
My niece knocked on my door and told me dinner is ready. I went down to eat. For dinner was the food that they sacrificed for their relatives earlier in the day, including Chinese noodles, and a boiled chicken. They gave me a chicken leg. It was tough and stringy, and had barely any meat but I was grateful for some meat anyway. Then I ate some noodles and rice and left the table without a word. I heard my niece note how quiet I was. Sorry, I thought, I’m just not in the mood to entertain.
5:44
I went back upstairs and my sister called me from the living room to come watch Obama on TV. I went in there and sat down, and for 10 minutes I watched an unmoving camera on a still landed airplane. Finally, Obama came off the plane with Hilary Clinton, got in a car and the car drove away. …This is what I waited for? I went back to my room.
5:54
I got ready for my bath. A mouse scuttles across my room. I thought about my new mouse traps. I decided to let it live another day. I’m too lazy. I changed into my sarong and went to take a bath. The water was freezing. Yup, cool season has finally arrived.
6:08
I got dressed and sat down at the computer, only to see that my computer isn’t working. I tried everything and I felt like crying. Finally I just forced shut down and it seems to be working again.
6:30
I decided an episode of Big Bang Theory was in order, to try to pull me out of my funk. It worked a bit.
6:55
I started work on this blog, while listening to the Peanuts Christmas Album.
8:00
I went to brush my teeth and use the bathroom before my host family locks everything up for the night.
8:10
Another volunteer called me, so I took a break from the blog and we talked for a while.
9:18
Back to work on the blog.
10:08
Now. The blog is finished. It is already late (I usually am in bed by 9), so I’m not going to post tonight. Maybe tomorrow. now I’ll crawl into my mosquito net with the same terrible book, read for a while by the light of my phone flashlight, and go to sleep before waking up to do it all again tomorrow. Good night.

More pictures from Cheng Meng


Still decorating our Chinese Ancestors grave



Almost done!


beautiful!

One of my 5 adopted nieces.

Another one. They always match. Yup one of my brothers here adopted 5 children at the same time, all between ages 7 and 9.

burning incense

Another of the adopted

And the 2 others. now you've seen all 5.



Saturday, November 10, 2012

My Christmas Wish List


It's the most wonderful tiiiiime of the yeeeeaaaar!


Christmas Wish List
ME
Shorts/capris
Food
Movies ( I’m really fond of the Disney and pixar variety)
Cookies
Watch
Degrassi seasons 6 and 7
Sunglasses
Peanut Butter
Granola Bars
Headphones
Oatmeal
Tweezer
Toothbrush

Pisal
DVD Player

Sokhen
Hair Straightener
Soaps and lotions
Kitchen Utensils
Nail Polish

Kingla
Crayons/markers
Coloring book
Mr. Bean
Looney Toons

Solita
Clothes
Toys

Srey Leak
Soaps and lotions
Nail Polish 

Send me stuff! (come on... at least a letter!)
My address:

Diana Broberg K5
Peace Corps Cambodia
U.S. Embassy
P.O. Box 2453
Phnom Penh 3 Cambodia ASIA

OR Secret option B is that you can save a lot of money on packaging by sending your stuff to my house in America. My older brother Dan is coming to visit me for Christmas, and will be bringing christmas gifts with him. 

I guess maybe I shouldn't post that address here... so if you want my home address for my brother to deliver your gifts, contact me and I'll get it for you.

An awesome mani-pedi from one of my best friends at site.

Baby monkeys

After I took this shot the mother started chasing me, growling. I admit to being a little afraid.

yum! pig!

Khmer people are usually cremated, unless they have chinese heritage. These are chinese graves, and these pictures come from a Chinese holiday, Ching Ming. They offer things to deceased ancestors at their graves.

haha caught my host brother bein silly with a pretty umbrella.

Extended family members.

All the stuff we offered. The idea is that if we offer paper cars and gold and watches and clothes, then the deceased relative will have that in their next life.

Then you burn incense and decorate the grave

Colorful streamers

Friday, November 2, 2012

A Month of Baby



One month ago, my sister gave birth. And in that moment, all of our lives were changed for good…

Okay, I’ll cut the dramatics.

But seriously, it’s been interesting.

My sister actually went to Phnom Penh to have her baby. She had a C-section, though I couldn’t really tell you why. I have to admit, part of me wonders if that was completely necessary, or if they just did that because to them it would seem ‘modern.’ I couldn’t say. All I know is that my family could not afford it, and my extended family forked over hundreds of dollars to pay for the hospital bill that amounted to over $1,000.

When my brother went to Phnom Penh to be with his wife, I sent him with a book I bought for her. My sister has recently showed interest in reading, and I wanted to encourage that, and also give her something to do in the days that she was bored in a hospital bed. I thought it was an awesome gift idea. It was a big book full of happy short stories in Khmer. Well, I found out later that she never read it. Her husband and her mother wouldn’t let her. Apparently it’s Khmer belief that if a woman uses her eyes too much after giving birth… well something bad will happen to her. So that means no reading and no TV.

Luckily, the most famous Khmer birthing tradition was avoided. In the villages, after a woman gives birth and comes home, the family will cook her for days. They lay her on a low wooden bed, wrapped in blankets, and light a fire under the bed. They believe they are releasing all of the sickness, weakness, and pain from the body by doing that. My sister was not cooked because she was in a real hospital in Phnom Penh.

Eventually, my sister came home to Prey Veng with the baby, and I got to meet her.
She is the SPITTING IMAGE of her father. The eyes might have a small trace of her mother, but the rest of her face is her father.

My sister came home wearing a ski cap. She wore that ski cap for 2 weeks straight. She didn’t even wash her hair.  After a while, I finally teased her about it, asking if she was expecting it to snow. She laughed and said it is Khmer tradition to wrap a woman’s head and keep it warm after having the baby. Maybe this was her version of the cooking. At heart, my sister is a small village girl, and really sticks to all the superstitions and traditions that go with that.

Before the arrival of the baby, I was wondering about how breastfeeding was gonna go in the house. Where is she going to go for that privacy? Is she going to be embarrassed with me there? I wanted to make sure she had her space and that I didn’t get in the way. But realistically, I’m just awkward and I didn’t want to be present for that. Well, the first night I was there, I was meeting the baby, sitting next to her and watching her small purple face. Then my sister decided it was time breast feed. OH there’s her boob! She just popped it out right then and there, and all my questions were answered in that second. I guess we’re on that level. And I knew I’d be seeing quite a bit of my sisters boobs for the rest of my time here.

The second night she was home with the baby, I was going to brush my teeth and tuck in for the night when I smelled something awful… and then I saw my sister. She was covered in this stinky yellow/orange paste. She was rubbing it all over her body, making her look a sickly yellow. I probably looked a sickly yellow from the smell itself. She awkwardly laughed as I looked at her and just said “Khmer tradition!” I decided not to press this issue further. However, the house reeked of that stuff for days afterwards.

Since then every day has been pretty much the same.
My sister and the baby spend almost all day and all night upstairs under a mosquito net.
The baby gets a bucket back twice a day.
The baby poops a lot.
And cries a lot more.
My sister hasn’t left the house, and didn’t even leave the room for 3 weeks.
My sister eats upstairs. I eat downstairs with Kingla, the first daughter.
My sisters youngest sister and Kingla do all of the house work, which includes cooking my dinner.
My sister does no housework.
The baby cries at least 3 times every night.

Every once in a while, I stop by the bed, to crouch down and sit next to the baby and give her some love (what kind of an aunt would I be if I didn’t?) Every time I do that, my sister feels the urge to tell me that her baby is black.

Baby Solita has beautiful, soft, chocolate colored skin. But here in Cambodia, that’s the worst kind of skin, especially for a girl. Every day, my sister mentions the “ugly black skin” numerous times. When I come to coo at the baby she mentions it. When I walk through the room on my way to the bathroom she says it. When a friend or family comes to meet the baby, she says it. When she’s bathing Solita she says it. When she’s breastfeeding she says it. When she’s alone and thinks no one is listening she says it. Honestly, after some time it started to really get to me. Every time, I dutifully remind her that her baby is beautiful INCLUDING the skin. Can you imagine waiting 9 months for the arrival of your baby, and when it finally comes, you, the mother, are disappointed with the color of your baby? So disappointed that you obsess over it, and even make apologies and excuses when you introduce your baby to friends and family.

Sometimes my sister says she hates her husband for making her baby black like him. She’s kidding, but there’s always a little truth is jest, isn’t there?

Once, she sort of blamed me. She brought up the whole coca-cola belief. Months ago, she told me that coca-cola makes babies black when the mamas drink it. I told her that was not true. Then, at a party I convinced her to have a glass of coke instead of a can of beer (the lesser of two evils). Well, that was brought up, and she basically said “I told you so.”

Despite all her.. well, all her not doing anything, my sister is exhausted. I guess that’s from all the getting up in the middle of the night. One day recently, she was downstairs walking around like she was in a trance. She was actually talking to herself haha. She walked for a bit, and said “I have to..go.. Solita is crying.” Solita was not crying. She was sound asleep. My sister was hearing things lol.

My brother has been trying with the baby, sort of. Realistically there is not much for him to do, because my sister is at the baby’s side every second. But he has held her and laid next to her. One of our family friends said “just wait till she learns to laugh and listen, then he’ll really love her.” I’m sure that will be the case.  I'm looking forward to that myself.

In just the last few days, the baby has actually been brought downstairs. The baby sleep on a mat in a hammock (the typical Khmer version of a crib). There is a string attached to the hammock, so a family member can always sit next to the baby, and swing the hammock. It works pretty well, the baby often stops crying when she is swung.

Solita, one week


Solita, one month, in her hammock crib.


The following pictures are from this past April

This is a traditional Khmer New Year Game. You have to knock down the rocks in a specific order by tossing another rock. When a player succeeds, they win the right to hit all of their opponents on the knee with a rock. I like this game!

Girls vs. Boys

It's Good!

The beginning stages of the World Map project

We measured it out and painted a big blue box.

Some students were hard at work. Others did an excellent job of observing.

All the students who helped paint the big blue box.

The next day, some other students came to measure out the grid that would help us draw the countries.

Straight lines are hard.

After the lines were drawn, box by box, the world map could be drawn.


Saturday, October 13, 2012

The Hello Game


I think to a certain extent, almost every PCV plays the “Hello” game in their country. Simply put, the hello game is when the locals greet you in some way, and you must decide whether their greeting deserves a response.

At first, the Hello Game may seem fun, but unfortunately, it’s not fun for all. When I first arrived in country and was warned about the Hello Game, I figured, like everyone else, how bad could it really get? We were told by veteran PCVs that there will really be days where we are so fed up that we have to fight the urge to punch a small child in the face. That seemed like an exaggerated joke, or a hyperbole, if you will, but I’m here to tell you it’s true. I don’t care how much you love children, and how vast your patience is. The Hello Game is a game you sometimes just. dont. want. to. play.

After being at site for a while, I believe all PCVs take the Hello Game at its simplest form, and alter it. I believe this is because we are looking for SOME sort of control in the game. Eventually, we have rules, stipulations, and clear-cut winners and losers. Some rules are likely universal, some specific to Cambodia, and some specific to the volunteer.

So how do you win or lose the hello game? Unfortunately friends, the PCV never wins, but the PCV can lose, simply by either judging a greeting falsely, or by losing his or her cool (and punching that small child who was just the last straw). A win for a local happens when their greeting meets all criteria, and is thus rewarded with a returned greeting. A loss is when the greeting breaks the rules, and thus goes by ignored.

Here are some of MY rules

You WIN if:
  1. You are a boy under the age of 12, or a woman
  2. Your greeting is polite and follows ALL criteria.


You LOSE if:
  1. You are male over the age of 13 (unless I know who you are, and your hello follows all other criteria)
  2. You say hello more than once (ex. HELLOHELLOHELLO does not cut it)
  3. You say “hello everybody.” I am not everybody. I am one person.
  4. You say “HELLOWHATISYOURNAME!”
  5. Or “HELLOILOVEYOU”
  6. Or worst of all “HELLOMONEYINTHEBANK!”
  7. Or “Whereyougo”
  8. You and/or your buddies laugh uncontrollably after saying hello.
  9. You beep your moto horn at me.
  10. Your hello last longer than 3 seconds.
  11. You are more than 50 feet away
  12. I have already passed you on my bike, and you are now screaming at my back.
  13. You reach out to grab me or my bike as you zoom past me on your moto or truck.
  14. You babble gibberish at me to make your friends laugh because it looks like your speaking another language
  15. It is before 6:00AM
  16. Or after 6:00PM
  17. You call me sir
  18. You call me barang
  19. You say “hello moto”
  20. Or “hello tuk tuk” as those are not my name.
  21. “OEEEEWW” is not another form of hello
  22. You say “bonjour mademoiselle. ” (I realize this is polite, but I don’t know how to respond. Actually to be honest, usually I do say “uhhh.. no French. Khmer.”
  23. You already played the game in the last 20 minutes.
  24. I hear (and understand) you making fun of me in the moment leading up to your hello.
  25. You are on a moto driving the opposite way as me, really quickly
  26. You shout “TEACHER!” for no reason, other than to make me look in your direction, and then you laugh.



There are more, but that’s enough to get you thinking, eh?
And I know what you’re thinking. So what? Everyone wants to say hello to you. Why is that so bad? And my answer to you is.. ok, you’re right, it’s not. So let’s trade lives for a while and see how you take it after just 2 months. You won’t understand it til you live it.

Not all greetings I experience insanely rude and/or obnoxious. There are some that I will always respond to, and even miss when I go back to America.
  • I love when students see me outside of school, and their face lights up as they say “hello teacher” or “hello ‘cher.”
  • I love when I enter a classroom and the entire class stands in respect. But at the same time, I love when in my private classes, students don’t do that, but instead shout “JOAL RE-UN!” or “ENTER TO STUDY!”
  • I love when students use the slang I taught them. My favorite is “what’s up, teacher?”
  • I love when a toddler on a moto driving ahead of me turns around in his mother’s arms and silently waves.
  • I love when students take off their hat to greet me. I feel like it’s the 40s and they’re tipping their hat to me.
  • I love when students catch my eye from a distance, and instead of screaming Hello at me, break into a dance I taught them.
  • I love when an older female friend puts her hand on my shoulder, back, or even butt to say hello, like they are fondly claiming me. (don’t judge. This is the closest thing to a hug I get here.

These Pictures are from back in March when one of my LCFs (teachers) from training got married and invited a bunch of us to his wedding in Svay Reing.

Me, Savin (another teacher), Samon (the groom), a village friend, and Rathana (yet another teacher)

Samon and Me

I wish I could say that this is me busting a move on that dance floor, but in reality there was a giant cricket on my shoulder.

The bride!

Bride and Groom!

The foreigners!


 These pictures are unrelated:
Teacher is goofy.

The students who participated in the Writing Olympics

7th graders playing a Khmer New Year game


Thursday, October 4, 2012

Awesome Person Award, Part I



            Needless to say, there are some really incredible people  here that I’ve met, and I’ve been inspired by their acts of kindness, whether it’s directed toward me or not. I’m going to write about 2 of them here, and look for more another time. Kinda like a series!

My brother-in-law, Pollo.
            His real name is Pollo, but everyone calls him Trea or Tea, which is Chinese for Uncle. I guess he has some Chinese blood in him. I’m related to him through my host brother. My host brother’s sister is married to him, making him my brother-in-law. He is named Pollo, after the first spaceship to land on the moon, because that’s the year he was born.
            Pollo is an exemplary man by any culture’s standards. Sometimes it’s so easy to lose faith in men here, but there really are some good, hardworking men. As I said, he is married and with 2 children, but his wife and children live in Phnom Penh. Pollo lives here on our compound during the week, and visits his family on the weekends. He is a doctor (though not licensed?) and works at the local Health Center. He is highly respected by the entire village because he is good at what he does and he is reliable.
            His two children are 10 and 7. His 10 year old son is brilliant and adorable and I have high hopes he’ll grow up to be just like his father. His 7 year old daughter is mentally handicapped, but is well loved and well taken care of by the whole family, especially by her father. Many men in Cambodia are very hands-off in raising the children, especially when the going gets tough, but Pollo is not. He is there to literally feed his daughter, and to answer every question she repeats over and over.
            Pollo does not drink, which is close to a miracle in Cambodia. He doesn’t smoke. He does not visit brothels. He works. And he works hard. He goes to the Health Center early in the morning. Around lunchtime he comes home for an hour. He sets up his hammock, grabs a book, and reads until he falls asleep for a few minutes. Then he goes back to the Health Center and is there until it is nearly dark, when he comes back and has dinner with us. He does his laundry either at night, or on the occasional weekends that he is here. He does not live in our house, but rather in this tiny shack that barely has 4 walls behind the house. I gather that almost all of his money goes to Phnom Penh to support his family. On the rare occasion that he gets home before dark, he does other strenuous house work such as pumping water, watering the plants, drying the rice, gardening, and irrigating the front lawn.
            I personally really enjoy time with Pollo as well. He is really intelligent, and we’ve had conversations about intricate topics like politics, religion, culture, geography, history, health etc. Though he says otherwise, he can speak English a pretty good amount, especially considering he is self-taught. Pollo is CONSTANTLY testing my Khmer proficiency. If there is a particularly lengthy and fast Khmer conversation happening, he’ll stop a ways into it and ask me if I understand what is being said. He gets a kick out of it every time I say “I stopped listening a while ago already.” If I claim to understand the conversation, he’ll ask me to translate, or summarize in Khmer, and he laughs as I try to blunder through a translation. Sometimes I give him a taste of his own medicine (hah, Doctor joke), and I’ll make him think in English.
            Of course there was also that time that I was really sick, and he went out at 10PM to the Health Center to get and IV for me. Then he came back and put the IV in. He called Peace Corps and settled things with the Peace Corps doctor. He watched over me for a while.
            Other things I know about Pollo is that he lost a lot of his family during the Khmer Rouge Genocide, though I don’t remember who. His marriage was arranged, but he has grown to love his wife very much. He is extremely health conscious, and won’t even eat meat other than locally caught fish or frogs because he doesn’t want to ingest whatever chemicals might go into the meat at the slaughterhouse or the market. He has a car for going back and forth to see his family, but he also has a sweet mountain bike (100x better than my city bike). If he’s not running late and it’s not raining, he prefers to take his bike to get in a little exercise. He’s a handsome guy, with a lighter complexion and jet black hair. I would say he does look more Chinese than Khmer. He has a polite, kind face, and the best high-pitched laugh in the village.

            The other “ awesome person award” goes to a fairly new friend of mine here in the village. Her name is Seng Heak (I think. I’ve never used her name, as it is very rude for a younger person to call an older person by their name).
            I met her because I go through phone cards really quickly for my internet. So, for a few reasons, I was on the lookout for another phone shop to get my phone/internet credit. First, because I literally used to cause my phone shop to run out of phone cards because I bought all of them, and second, because if I keep buying from the same person every time, they’re eventually going to think I’m loaded. Obviously, I’m not loaded, I just try to make sure I budget for internet, because it’s really important for me. Anyways, I digress... but that is how I happened on Seng Heak’s shop. It’s on the far side of the market, but it’s not too deep into the market where I have to brave mud ponds and crowds.
            One day when I was there, I saw at her shop one of my 7th grade students from the previous year, and found out he was her son. Actually, it was one of my problem kids! The kind of kid who literally just talked over the teacher’s lesson, and came late almost every day. Seng Heak asked me if I ever taught her son, and I told her yes. The poor kid had this face on like.. ‘this conversation can’t possibly benefit me.’ And she told me, ‘he’s a naughty kid! Right? Is he naughty?’ Not really sure how to respond I said ‘yeah, a little.’ She laughed and said “well, you have my permission to hit him. I don’t know how to hit him, so somebody’s gotta!’ I laughed... not really sure if she was kidding, and went on with my business.
            The next time I went to buy a card, she asked me if I was teaching any beginner classes. I figured she was talking about for her son, so I began to tell her about my summer classes at the school, but then she said for HER. Instead, I told her about my class for adults that I do 2 or 3 times a week. I told her the time and place. She said that it sounded great, because she’d be embarrassed to study with children. I paid for my card and walked away, honestly not expecting her to come. People have asked me about my adult class before, and I’ve invited them, but they usually don’t actually come.
            However, the next class she was there, with a pen and a new book, ready to study. I admit that at first I was a little frustrated because the adult class had been studying with me for 8 or 9 months already and know quite a bit. I knew I would have to do a TON of review, I’d have to slow down the rest of the students, and deal with the fact that a lot of the content was going to go right over her head. The first few classes didn’t go so well. The English sounds were so foreign to her, and she was really struggling to memorize the words. After a few classes, she asked me “Teacher, what can I do to learn English quickly?” (This is actually a very common question that I get so much it almost makes me crazy. People literally believe that I have some sort of magical solution to learning English other than just studying hard. They think because I am a foreigner, I can put English into their brain through osmosis with little time and even less effort.) I just told her what I tell everyone. Study. Before you come to class, look over your notebook and review what we did last time so it’s fresh in your mind. I also invited her to come 15 minutes before the other students so I can try to do a little bit of catch-up in that time.
            Now here we are, nearly 2 months later. She is doing just fine. Obviously, there are things that go over head, but the stuff that she was here to learn, she remembers. She is always the first one to come to class, and I’m slowly teaching her the stuff she missed, like how are you, what is your name, where are you from, etc. Then she participates and does her best in the more advanced lesson. I recently found out that she wasn’t even able to finish the 6th grade. It has been YEARS since she has studied something, and that’s not something that comes back easily. I really admire her persistence, and just her interest in studying in the first place. It’s not like she’s bored with nothing to do. She works at 2 adjacent stores in the market that are open all day every day.
            Last week, Seng Heak really shone as an Awesome Person. I had come home late from exercising, and she had come super early. So I told Seng Heak to wait for me downstairs while I quick go take a bath. On the way to the bathroom, my super-pregnant host sister told me that she wasn’t going to study that night because she was having belly pains. I said that’s just fine, and told her to relax. Then I took my shower. When I got out, there was quite a scene. My sister’s bedroom door was wide open, and Seng Heak was upstairs, quickly and neatly throwing things in a travel bag and ordering my host sister to get dressed. Apparently in the time I was in the bathroom, it was decided that my sister needed to get to Phnom Penh THAT night, in case the baby was coming earlier than her husband’s planned trip to get her 2 days later. Well, Seng Heak completely took control of the whole operation. She packed the bags. She thought of all the things my sister might need to bring with her. She made 5 or 6 trips up and down the stairs carrying all of her things to Pollo’s car and packed it in the trunk (another example of Pollo being an awesome person). She helped my sister get dressed, and walked her down to the car. She calmed down my sister and spoke words of comfort. I was SO grateful for all that she did, because I admit I was freaking out a little bit. My sister did not look well and I was afraid the baby was gonna fall out right then and there. I was just looking on, completely helpless, unable to help in any way other than convincing her to sit in the front seat of the car because I know she get’s car sick super easy. Seng Heak was exactly the person who needed to be there in that moment, and she really stepped up. After all, it’s not like her and my sister were long-time friends. They only met through my class. But that’s something I love about my adult class- it gives me AND my sister friends in this village that we are technically both kind of new to.
            Seng Heak is tall for a Khmer woman, with a flat and kind of stern face that completely lights up when she smiles. I noticed that when she is thinking really hard about the lesson, she makes the same expression as I noticed her son making, which cracked me up. They both have a sort of vacant expression when they are thinking with their faces point slightly downward, their eyes wide and pointing slightly upward, and their jaw hanging gently with their lips parted. She is notably kind to EVERYONE, whether or not she knows who they are. She is easy to talk to, and not too shy to start up conversations with anyone. She’s funny, patient, and caring. And I am so glad I happened to find her phone shop.

The crazy mama chicken teaching her chicks to climb trees. Why are Prey Veng chickens so weird?

My role-playing students

Pictures from the first time I went to monkey island.

This guy was waiting for me at the entrance.

Hey look! a fat Buddha! That is not common in Cambodia.

HOTTuh!

We're practically neighbors.

Honors Society students participating in the international writing olympics.


NO CHEATING!